The link below goes to a acquaintance’s blogpost that I think is well reasoned and well written, as well as offering food for thought. Enjoy –
Category Archives: Musing
I’ve been noticing lately how pervasive the word “love” is in our culture. It begins to seem insubstantial. I love that dress! Love those that horse! I love chocolate, tools, that flower, a still and warm night. I love possums and someone else loves raccoons and we all love bunnies (except some Aussie farmers). I love it when things just effortlessly fall into place.
We say we love a lot of things, and we say we love people. Mother’s Day yesterday: I love my mom. I love my spouse, significant other, siblings, friends.
So what is love? It’s a feeling, right? I think we generally file it under emotion. We feel a certain way and call it love.
When I look at this from an expanded consciousness perspective, though, love doesn’t present itself as an emotion. The emotion seems to be a response to participating in a field – field as in physics.
The field is the All, Source, God, The Force, Yahweh, The Be.
I suspect that we recognize something in the experience of a person, thing, event or situation that connects us closely to the infinite Be. The All, which is Love. Whatever we love is a little something that acts as a gateway, opening up the field to us more fully than other people or things do. When we surrender to that little gateway, no matter how significant or insignificant that person or thing might be – a smile from a stranger passing on the street or a lover’s touch; a bird’s flight or the power of a thunderstorm – no matter how big or small it seems in our value system, it matters. It is a little doorway into all that matters.
I suspect that when we surrender to that little taste of bliss, we enter the energy field of Love and have the opportunity to bask in it, to keep the door open and let it leak into everything we experience.
The object of love doesn’t matter. The color blue or our selves, the door is open. Come on in this field! It’s a field we all know – and maybe never leave, only ignore or misunderstand.
I think that’s what Love is always saying: come on in this field!
A number of clients lately have been asking me the same question: “Why is this happening (to me)” The implication or follow up questions suggest the assumption that if one can figure out why something is happening, one can then stop it or turn it in a different direction.
A more valuable question is often, “How do I best handle this?”
It’s easy to get tangled up in psychobabble and left-brain analyzing when hunting for a “why.” It’s possible to create more difficulties and confusion than one started with due to the tendency to pick oneself apart, criticize, judge and doubt.
Sometimes when I dig for a “why,” I end up sinking myself in the past, in events or interactions or relationships, hunting a solution. But they’re past. They require no solution, or letting go may be the solution, or the solution lies in a new choice of action or reaction now.
When I say to myself, “It is what it is; how do I best handle this?” I’m offering myself a choice: do I act or react in the way I might usually act or react, or is there another choice. There may be a choice that leaves me feeling better about myself, or an option that feels right even if it seems to run counter to logic. If I sit with the question for awhile, I may find that I’d like to do X but fear the outcome. This gives me a chance to practice following my inner knowing, letting go of the outcome, allowing myself to trust myself. Trust myself to experiment, learn through experience, even to fuck up … the experience will still be valuable even if it turns out not to have been the best choice. I’d have tried. Or not – maybe I go ahead and do the not-scary thing this time while I begin to let go of that particular fear by practicing on decisions and choices that seem small and less scary for awhile, building my confidence and honing my skill with this new way of expression or interaction.
If a “best” choice isn’t clear, why worry? Make a choice and let go of the outcome. Consider it an experiment. Pay attention to what happens inside and out, then next time you’ll have a little more information to go on. Because there is no end, it’s all good even if it doesn’t look so from this physical world point of view. Pat yourself on the back for living, exploring, experimenting consciously and with attention.
Often the “why” is answered in experiencing the “how.”
That’s my reminder to myself today.
The subject of time keeps popping up in my life lately. A friend is trying to deprogram his assumptions about it. A reader of my book asked for clarification concerning something i said about it. Another friend made a crazy joke about it. And I’ve been thinking about how we in the western world assume that everyone perceives time the way we do, yet sometimes I simply don’t – and I’m sure that there are cultures that perceive time differently than we do.
We’ve been conditioned to perceive time as a stream, moving in one direction, and assume it’s measurable in increments because we do that.
When I’m “outside time,” I have never perceived time as a flow nor as consisting of measurable increments. I think the best description that I can find for my perception is that time is a field.
As a field, all that enters or participates in the field can be perceived any way one chooses. Everything can be perceived at once, instantaneously, or one can focus in different ways in order to perceive whatever is participating in the field in some other fashion … For instance, in a linear sequence (with an organization of one’s choosing). One can also skip around at will, picking one bit here, one bit there. One can also step out of it.
WhenI shift my focus within the field, it shifts everything in the field to some degree. There is resonance. Observing is participation, as much as is deliberate action.
(I’m using the word “field” in the way physics would, I think: gravity is a field, for instance.)
Thinking of time in this way may be another useful exercise in shifting perception, expanding the potential of what and how we perceive reality.